2015 was a hard year for me. I had graduated with a Master’s Degree and was excited about my future. But, when things didn’t turn out exactly as I had hoped, I was forced to look inward and examine myself. The truth was that I had skills I didn’t think were noteworthy. I wasn’t confident that what I had could help anybody or make a significant impact. I had zero motivation even though I could talk about the ‘idea’ of motivation and drive. But abstract concepts didn’t help me.
You see, I have always been very self-aware. I knew that there were things I needed to do, ideas I could pursue, more books I could write (I had written two at the time and was afraid or taking another step) and things I could do. But, I had bought into the lie that if there was something great out there it would be revealed to me.
How wrong I was!
I didn’t need anything to be revealed to me; I simply needed to take a determined step, shaky or not. I needed to wake up from my slumber and chase my dreams.
No sooner did I step into that new zone of ‘wakefulness’ did I discover that I had been held down by resistance all along. You see those things I always thought were not important or valuable? It was resistance that gave me that idea. I couldn’t move forward because resistance convinced me that there was no point.
Have you ever felt this way? When you get ready to do something new, all of a sudden, you’re convinced that you’ll never have the time to complete it. And if you complete it you’ll never be able to launch it. Or you’ll never do a good enough job. Or no one would support you.
We need to recognize resistance for what it is. A marker for the things that are urgent and important. Steven Pressfield says it this way:
"The more important a call or action is to our soul’s evolution, the more resistance we will feel towards pursuing it.”
And I agree. If it tugs at your heart and won’t let go, then you must do it. Shut down that part of your brain that tells you all the reasons why it may not work. Shut it down. Decide that you will do the work anyway whether the positive results show up or not. Sometimes the expectation of positive results stops us from doing all we can. We give up when things don’t work out the way we expect. But to succeed, we must keep trying, keep aiming at that goal until we hit it.
We’re on the verge of another year. Goals will be set. Resolutions will be made. Don’t ride on the bandwagon of emotional compulsion or useless habit. Make an intentional decision to make this year different. Set goals; not too big that you become overwhelmed and unable to move and not too small that you feel no drive to achieve them. But big enough to keep you energized as you pursue them.
Make it your goal in 2017 to do something big.
And yes, you can.